Your Opinion: So on the way back home from picking up Jonathan on Tuesday, he told us the following: One of his friends, (I'll call her Darla), had wanted her lip pierced for quite some time. Her parents thought it was a horrible idea (her dad is a pastor). So she got it pierced while at college (without telling them) and posted pics of her pierced lip on FB. Her mom saw the pics, and called blessing her out. The mom told Darla she was a disgrace, asked what friends and family would think? What would the church people think> She demanded that Darla take the piercing out (and not tell her dad). You get the picture. Then after she'd fussed at her for quite a while..later texted her and told her to take the pics off FB before church members saw it. Darla did as told and the dad doesn't know (or at least didn't at the telling of the story Tuesday). So what is your opinion? Should Darla have gotten her lip pierced without her parents permission (esp since she knew how they felt). Should mom have gotten so upset? Here's what I think. I am not a huge fan of lip piercing--not because there is anything Biblically based against it, but I just don't like the way they look usually. However, I don't believe it's my place to judge a person because they have one. I don't think Darla should have blatantly disobey her parents (and it was wasted money/time) nor do I think her mom should have reacted so dramatically (and so mean spirited). If Darla got the piercing simply because she wanted to and it's a creative expression then I'm all for it. As a preacher's daughter and preacher's wife, I understand why the parents would be worried about what the church members think--after all church members (and others who call themselves Christians and aren't) are the most judgemental in a LOT of cases. Growing up, church members always put in their two cents about us. They think because they help pay the pastor's salary, they 'own' the family and should be able to have a say in pretty much any matter). Sidenote: My mom still has a problem with my hair colors and is slightly embarrassed by many of them. My parents don't like nose piercing, lip piercing, tatoos, etc. As a matter of fact, my mom and I had a heated discussion about tatoos and the fact that our oldest son wants (and will get) one at some point. She'll be horrified, but that's a different post. As long as our guys don't do anything immoral, illegal, or against God's word, (even if we don't like it) we don't make them feel badly about it. Though we give our opinions simply because they ask. If you care more about what church members, family members and friends think over your own child's feelings, I have a problem with that. If you choose to be selective about what you believe (no tattoos, lip piercing,no women leaders etc ) and let your wife/daughter, etc wear make up, cut their hair, wear pants, etc..and your sons/husband pray without covering their head) I have a problem with that because it proves you take things out of context and don't really bother to study what the scriptures really say and why. I know that my Father cares more about what's on the inside than the outside. I know that God cares more about us loving Him with all we have and our neighbor as ourselves that worrying about what others think. I know that all the legalism went out with the death of Christ. I know that if we follow the two greatest commandments, everything else falls into place...and God is much more interested in HOW we live and WHO we live for than how we look. What say you? | 
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